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Cold Resolve - Issue 007 - HOLD FRAME OR LOSE YOURSELF

The Man Who Breathes Before He Speaks

Author

Johnny Lantigua
May 20, 2025

Don’t match her energy. Set your own.

In relationships—romantic or otherwise—most men chase emotional peace by appeasing.
They overexplain. They apologize for existing.
They lose their frame in an effort to be "understood."

But a composed man isn’t desperate to be understood.
He’s rooted. Still. Watching.

She may raise her voice. He doesn’t.
She may push. He doesn’t flinch.
And because of that—she respects him.

You don't win respect by reacting.
You win it by being unshakable.

Practice This Week:
In any heated conversation, don’t explain. Don’t defend.
Pause. Breathe. Respond in 5 words or less.

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